The Farm Wife Sagas

Do you ever catch yourself thinking about what life would be like without that one special person? I do—usually right after I’ve gone and blessed him out over something he couldn’t control or something that didn’t go as planned.

The truth is, the past three years have been a whirlwind of changes in our relationship. We went from a family of two to a family of three. I went from being gone during the week for work to being home full-time—and with that came new roles, new routines, and new expectations for each other.

And I’ll be honest—I don’t always give him the credit he deserves.

When VJ was born, my life changed overnight. But so did his. While I shifted into motherhood (with the bonus of being home more, which honestly made some of those “wifely duties” easier), his responsibilities multiplied—without any extra hours in the day. He still had fire shifts. Still had farm work. But now he also had a little girl tugging at his heart—and his hand—for more of his time and attention.

And she wants all of it. Every second with her daddy.

I’d like to say it’s gotten easier, but VJ only presses harder for that one-on-one time with him. And watching their bond grow has reminded me of something important:

We see you, dads.

We appreciate you more than we say out loud.

And all those little things you do? They’re not little at all. They are huge—and they’re shaping your children’s lives in ways you may never fully realize.

You’re showing your sons how to love, how to lead, how to provide, and how to be a good spouse. You’re showing your daughters what love looks and feels like—what to expect, what to accept, and what to never settle for.

When I think about the kind of person I hope VJ ends up with someday, I pray they love her wild spirit and big personality just like her daddy does. I pray they’re kind, selfless, and steady—just like the man who’s been quietly showing her what love looks like all along.

So here’s to you, Dad.

The bar is set high—and that’s because of you.