The Farm Wife Sagas

Like most girls, I was a daddy’s girl. There weren’t many things that ranked above my daddy—and even now, that list is still small. But it wasn’t until I had a daughter of my own that I truly understood why my dad was so important to me.

Through her eyes, I began to see just how much it mattered who I chose to be her daddy.

The one who comforts her when she’s upset.

The one who makes her belly laugh.

The one who teaches her right from wrong—not with anger, but with love.

The one who puts her and her mama first—not his habits, not his stress, not his pride.

And in those moments, I realized just how blessed I’ve been. I grew up with that kind of steady, selfless love—and now, my daughter gets to grow up with it, too.

When you’re choosing a spouse or significant other, don’t just look at how fun they are or how much money they make. Look at who they are when things are hard.

Do they disappear?

Do they drink their stress away?

Are they only present for the good times?

When the power’s out in the middle of the night, are they the one making sure the generator’s running before heading off to work?

If even one of those questions makes you uneasy—pay attention.

Because butterflies fade. And real life doesn’t wait for everything to be perfect.

I’m no marriage expert—but I do know what love looks like when it shows up.

I have a husband I could survive without—but I don’t have to.

I don’t have to worry about frozen pipes or a dark, cold house.

I don’t have to carry the weight of motherhood, farm life, and daily chaos all by myself.

I don’t have to lose my mind just to be heard.

I have a partner—one who shows up in the messy moments. One who carries the load. One who takes pride in protecting our peace, not just reacting to pressure.

Are there stressful days and disagreements? Absolutely.

But are they resolved with calm and care—most of the time? Yes.

That’s the kind of love I pray every little girl grows up watching.

That’s the kind of person I hope every woman waits for.

And that’s the kind of soul I pray I’ll one day welcome into our family when VJ finds her person.

So to the women out there still searching—don’t settle because it’s easy. Don’t stay because it’s comfortable. And don’t choose someone just because they’re there.

Choose the one who shows up.

The one who stays steady.

The one who makes your hard days easier and your good days even sweeter.

Because your forever shouldn’t be built on butterflies—it should be built on backbone